Okay, folks, I've recieved no comments or messages yet.
I think, maybe, it might because no one has really heard any advice from me yet. (or, nobody reads this blog)
so here's a little taste,
I have this friend who is a junior but he's currently dating a freshman. They've been going out for a few weeks and he's already dropped the "L" word (that's 'Love' for you slow readers).
Now, personally, I think that's moving a little fast. But, this is high school, so what did you expect?
The thing is, she's going through some stuff right now and doesn't feel she can trust herself to say it back. Understandable, since she's got two guys in her past that she always seems to fall back on but they always leave her hurt.
What my friend doesn't understand is, if you want a girl to choose you, you can't just keep throwing the "L" word around or showering her with affection. Obviously this girl is going through some crap right now and she's feeling tremendous pressure on one side, and what does she feel on your side? GUILT. Big guilt, because you keep "loving" and "loving" her and she isn't going to love you back because she's confused.
You have to be her calm water. The person she goes to who will listen and understand. In this situation, YOU (my friend) have to be the one to shut up. Be there for her, that's what she needs.
That's it. Simple.
Be there for your girlfriend in her troubled time.
does that make sense? I think it does.
Friday, February 25, 2011
Monday, February 21, 2011
And...Scene Change!
That's right, I am officially changing the nature of this blog (again).
I've come to the conclusion that I have grown as a person substantially since I last gave a crap about what I posted(which was at least three years ago). So I've decided to start not only giving a crap about my own blog, but giving a crap about the people who read it.
See, the main reason why I didn't really write much was because I didn't see a need to because NO ONE seemed to read it. But now, I don't know. I haven't been on it in a while. So I figure, if actual people are in actual need of my writing, then I have to write don't I?
The answer is yes.
And so, I promise to be completely blunt, honest, and sincere with the advice that I give. And I'm anonymous, so if you don't like what I say just say to yourself "screw her, she doesn't even know me." and forget everything I said.
But, if i actually help you, then we'll both have gained something from the experience.
So if you need any advice, about anything (family, friends, love, lies, job, etc.) send me a message and I'll post a response. and if you wish to remain anonymous, just say so, and I'll give you a witty little pen name (or make up your own, I don't care), all I wanna do is try to give somebody else in the world a little happiness and hope.
I've come to the conclusion that I have grown as a person substantially since I last gave a crap about what I posted(which was at least three years ago). So I've decided to start not only giving a crap about my own blog, but giving a crap about the people who read it.
See, the main reason why I didn't really write much was because I didn't see a need to because NO ONE seemed to read it. But now, I don't know. I haven't been on it in a while. So I figure, if actual people are in actual need of my writing, then I have to write don't I?
The answer is yes.
And so, I promise to be completely blunt, honest, and sincere with the advice that I give. And I'm anonymous, so if you don't like what I say just say to yourself "screw her, she doesn't even know me." and forget everything I said.
But, if i actually help you, then we'll both have gained something from the experience.
So if you need any advice, about anything (family, friends, love, lies, job, etc.) send me a message and I'll post a response. and if you wish to remain anonymous, just say so, and I'll give you a witty little pen name (or make up your own, I don't care), all I wanna do is try to give somebody else in the world a little happiness and hope.
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